Put Your Boots On!

For those of you that weren’t aware, I live in Calgary, Alberta.  There’s a pretty well-known event that takes place the second week of July every year.  It’s known as “The Greatest Outdoor Show On Earth” and has a tagline of “the most fun you can have with your boots on!”  The event is the Calgary Stampede and it has been running continuously for 102 years.  It is the richest rodeo in the world with $2,000,000 in prize money, so it attracts the best cowboys and cowgirls from around the world to see if they can tap into the mother lode.

However it is so much more than a rodeo.  For Calgarians it is a celebration of who we are as a city with roots in ranching and prairie life styles.  It has a festival attached to it that is somewhat more like Oktoberfest in Germany or Carnaval in Rio de Janeiro. It is about strutting our (often adopted) heritage with daily pancake breakfasts, beef and beans for lunch, lots of two-stepping and line dancing and the odd alcoholic beverage thrown in just for fun.

Chuckwagon racing at the Stampede!
Chuckwagon racing at the Stampede!

Oh … did I mention the part of dressing up like a cowboy?  And doing it for 10 days in a row?  Jeans, wide belt, giant belt buckle, western shirts (bolo tie and bandana optional), boots and a Stetson?  And we wear it to work to boot! No suits, sports jackets, or business casual.  Just Western gear!

So when a business visitor shows up during Stampede in a suit, they stand out like a sore thumb.  Imagine getting on a plane in the morning dressed in an entirely accepted manner and showing up a few hours later in a place where you are so different from everyone else!

I can remember a few years back being out at a “social event” one afternoon with some friends in a bar full of hay bales, Stetsons and boots staring at three guys in the middle of the room in Saville Row suits.  The group of us made bets as to whether they were lawyers (the courts have no sense of humour about Stampede), or whether they were from Toronto (where they never believe it when we tell them how to dress).  I drew the short straw and was sent to find out their story.  Turns out they were lawyers from Toronto.

All this said about wearing suits at Stampede, not too many Calgarians hop on a plane to Toronto in their Stampede gear though.  And when Stampede is over, we put it away until next year. We certainly don’t want to look out-of-place their either!

It is amazing how strong our need to fit in is.  Calgarians are all comfortable dressing up in something that would be considered a Hallowe’en costume anywhere else because we all do it together, and people who didn’t understand the memo and then show up dressed “normally” are totally uncomfortable.

Pierre Dorion and his lovely wife Lana Jo
Pierre Dorion and his lovely wife Lana Jo

Except for Pierre Dorion.  Pierre is an amazing IT consultant and friend that I’ve known for years. He’s from Montreal but moved to Calgary years ago because of a love for Western lifestyle.  He wears what would be considered to be Stampede gear (only nicer) every day of the year.  He is most comfortable when dressed that way and he dresses the same way whether in Calgary or New York.  That’s just who Pierre is. In his words, he says that showing up in that fashion shows “how you can follow your heart and be who you are”.

I admire him greatly for his ability to just be himself wherever he goes.  He knows the clothes don’t make a difference in who he is, and he isn’t all that concerned if some others might judge him because of assumptions they make because of his dress. In short, he is just comfortable being Pierre and feels more authentic when he shows it.

What if we all did that?  I’m not talking about clothes here.  I’m talking about dropping our facades, our need to “be the same”, our search for acceptance and showed up as our authentic self … how we want to be in the world.  What if we all then used that stance to offer the world the innate talents we were given, made our uniqueness our value statement to the rest of our connections?  What if we just knew that our “differences” were actually our “strengths” within our community?

How do we, as leaders, seek out the uniqueness of others and use them as strengths? What do we do to really get to know our team members such that we can give them the greatest opportunities to grow authentically? How do we honour and embrace the value of those around us who dare to be different?

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Ian Munro @ leadingessentially.com

Ian Munro is a leadership and vitality coach with a primary passion for working with senior professionals who wish to improve their connection to and vitality in their career, or who wish to make a transition to a meaningful and rewarding retirement. His methods are focused on helping clients understand why they present as they do in day-to-day life, discover their authentic self and give themselves permission to build a meaningful and rewarding future, both professional and personal. Ian’s love for this work has developed naturally as he built his career as an executive and leader in the IT services industry, serving in many roles and facets of this industry over 25 years. As he reached the pinnacle of his career he began to search more deeply for meaning and alternate rewards from his own career and to begin to plan for his own “first retirement”.

16 thoughts on “Put Your Boots On!

  1. I like Pierre already and I don’t even know him! What if we showed our authentic selves…?? The older I get, the more, it seems, I’m doing just that Ian.

    As I was reading your post, I couldn’t help but think that there are those who are authentic/original and at times their way of dressing or thinking or being catches on and others jump on board en masse and suddenly the original person doesn’t seem original anymore…

    Happy Stampeding Ian!
    Diana xo

      1. True enough! Still, something new and original becomes the norm and commonly accepted practice until someone new and original walks in and tries to change it…

    1. There is some great advice here in making our ‘uniqueness our value statement’ and recognizing our differences as our strengths. It would also stop the angst of trying continually to become something we are not, simply to blend in.

      1. Thanks Elizabeth. It is interesting that we actually can feel the angst but do it anyway! I think it starts with each of us trying to applaud the uniqueness and diversity of those around us to make it safe for everyone to just be who they are supposed to be.

  2. Very nice Ian. It reminded me of a Haiku (of course!) I wrote on our 3rd Hudson weekend, seeing so many so clearly and transparently:

    Removing facade
    The ornaments we adorn
    We are much the same

    I think it’s much easier to write a Haiku, sometimes, than to be seen as so unique and our vulnerabilities too transparent. Maybe when we finally learn to trust ourselves?

  3. Love this Ian, the part about embracing what makes us different and unique not only as leaders but as individuals – lean and live into your true self – and believe the world will always accept you for you. Hope to see stampede next year!

  4. Awesome read Ian – reminds me how lucky I am, Thank you!
    I love and appreciate the fact that I (now) live in a community/region/country that embraces one’s true self. Though this may not be the case any more, but In some regions of the world, showing-up-as-your-authentic-self, may not be as easily accepted as it is here (Canada). Some of us were brought up to blend in and not to be unique (not saying that I was, but have seen many). Sometimes we overlook upbringings and different cultures; we don’t mean to do it, but it does happen.
    #justsaying #justmytwocents #notbeingadowner 🙂

    1. Thanks for this great perspective. I completely agree that we are lucky to be a part of a great country that honours individuality. But I also love your perspective that it isn’t just about the environment. It is about each of us looking for and valuing the diversity that we have in our nation, rather than looking for a common way of being. #haveyoursay #lvingintolife 🙂

  5. … It made me smile when I read that Pierre was from Quebec (especially after all the stuff about Toronto lawyers!). xxoo Helen

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